You catch a glimpse of yourself in the mirror.
Your GORGEOUS self.
Oh, yeah. Where’s the camera?!
But before you post that Instagram and broadcast your fineness to the world, can I give you some reasons to save all that beauty for someone more special than, say, everyone?
#10: Because you are setting yourself up…
…to be compared to every other girl that posts seductive selfies, and, chances are, you won’t come in first. (Ouch, I know.)
Really, though, first place will probably go to some exotic beauty at a party in Dubais wearing a $10,000 Talbot-Runhof dress who isn’t even allowed to show her face at the men’s side of the party.
Instead of displaying your wares in a saturated market, showing your stuff to a world that’s geared to mock everything except Photoshopped plastic perfection, why not believe that God has made you the PERFECT you, perfectly designed for ONE man?
Why not save the selfie for your husband’s eyes only?
You might be surprised how many great guys out there stoically unfollow those girls who post seductive selfies so they’ll recognize and respect the right girl when she comes along.
The famed basketball legend David Robinson was marked by his firm habit of staring hard at the floor when the skimpy pro cheerleaders were showing their stuff, and some people were shocked by his apparent rudeness to sexy women who’d come on to him after the game. In response he said, “If any woman is going to get her feelings hurt, it’s not going to be my wife.”
Now ain’t that the kind of man you want? Ain’t it?
#9: Because you are more than just a fine body to drool over.
We get it.
God made you that way.
But you also have much, much more to offer. When all guys see is skin, it’s hard for them to think seriously about anything you are saying because your actions are screaming so loud that you want them to notice your body.
We don’t always make it easy on guys, you know. We expect to be able to flash ourselves around, then we get huffy when guys want to look. Or we get huffy when they don’t look! We’ve got to realize that men in general are either going to look or they’re not, and it’s largely up to us. We can’t say, I hope those cute guys look and those creepy guys control themselves.
Some people will stare google-eyed at your picture until someone walks into the room where they are stalking your Facebook page.
Some guys will nudge their buddies when you walk by in the hall.
Some sicko will watch you from his parked van as you walk into the mall.
And some nice guys will jerk their heads away when you walk by their families in the restaurant, trying not to noticeably notice your hot self in front of their wives.
But you can be sure, if you ever want to contribute something meaningful to a conversation with them, you will have to cover up if you want their brains to switch from the “trying-not-to-look-like-I’m-looking” mode to “wow, this girl is smart” mode.
No wonder some girls think all guys are idiots! They’ve never had the pleasure of talking to one who totally had his mind on something besides, well, you know… 😮
#8: Because one day you may have a little girl…
…who will grow up and be more than just a fine body to drool over. And if you tell yourself that all you are is a few great curves, someday that’s what your old pictures will tell her. It’ll be really hard for you to say, “You are NOT going out of this house dressed like that!”
#7: Because you are a trend-setter.
Every girl has the privilege of casting her vote on the current trends by what she slips into in the morning.
YOU MATTER. If you draw a line, then that is one vote for whatever standard you set.
If you vote for modesty, then you have made it that much easier for other girls to feel comfortable doing the same.
If you walk around naked, then people who see you – after the shock wears off – will be that much less shocked the next time a naked girl walks by.
You really do have the power to choose the fashion, even if you feel like an oddball.
Dressing independently is the mark of an artist!
#6: Because people that matter really don’t care what you look like.
Really. They don’t.
People who truly love you do so because of YOU, not because of how you are shaped. If you want to dress modestly, chances are people are going to be okay with it – IF they even give it a second thought. You might even be surprised how much easier life becomes!
Bosses will appreciate your professionalism.
Nice guys will appreciate being able to treat you like an intelligent person instead of a flirty sex object.
You won’t feel as creeped out by the old creeps that like to turn and stare at the cute young girls they don’t know.
And you will enjoy not having to constantly pull your shirt up or your skirt down whenever you are talking to someone dressed respectably.
#5: Because, honestly, you have no idea who sees that picture.
Ugh. Nuff said.
#4: Because if you really do look so hot, you are making a lot of other women feel rotten.
That might not seem very important to you as a teen or twenty-something who thinks she’ll never age, but wait until you just had a baby and still look seven months pregnant and you’ve had no sleep and you look at your FB page and see Miss Duckface with her bursting cleavage and tiny tummy and just see if you don’t want to smash the screen. 🙂
That whole “do unto others” thing…be a sweet sister and be nice!
#3: Because that guy you are posting the pic for really isn’t worth it.
I don’t want to hurt you, but you probably know it already, deep down.
If you are afraid his heart will wander if he doesn’t see you puckering in your bathroom, let it go. Let him go; don’t hold him back anymore! Run away and slam the door!
What you want is a man who will not stop loving you when you DID just have a baby, yet you still look seven months pregnant and haven’t slept…and if his heart wanders from you now if he doesn’t see your body looking luscious on his phone, he is NOT one you want to count on growing old with.
Today is the first day of the rest of your life. Start investing in old age now, and don’t invest in a loser who will leave you for a hotter selfie.
#2: Because you are PRECIOUS!
There never has been, or ever will be, another you; please know this!
You are gorgeous no matter if you are the gorgeous Arab girl at the party in Dubais or if you are 312 pounds, lonely, and abused. You are a gem whether you’ve been polished or not, and you were NOT meant to be treated as a worthless plaything.
Jesus loves you. I love you! And He has a plan for your life that will happen – IF – you leave it to Him and don’t try to help it along with poochielips and negligee photos.
I don’t know what that plan is for you. I just know that there is one.
For the LORD God is a sun and shield:
the LORD will give grace and glory:
no good thing will he withhold from them that walk uprightly.
For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.
#1: Because there is a guy out there who needs you.
Even if you won’t meet him for ten years, he still needs you today to believe he’s out there, and you need him.
He needs to be able to trust you, to be able to look at your timeline and not wonder what kind of girl you really are, just like you need to be able to look at his history and not wonder what kind of guy he really is.
You and that guy are both on a journey, wishing to find each other. Sure, you will make mistakes along the way. Guess what? He will too.
You will have to learn to trust and forgive even through mistakes. You will have to learn that God, through Jesus’s blood, has provided way extra grace to cover any mess you could ever make.
For every selfie that you’ll be ashamed of, there is grace abundant, waiting to take that shame and turn it into something good if it’s surrendered to Jesus.
For every time your husband will sin against you, you will have to trust that Jesus, who became sin for us and took all our blame even though He personally knew no sin, has grace ready and waiting to turn your man’s sin into a stepping stone.
Until that day, run to Jesus. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your paths straight to that happy ending you’ve always wanted. He knows how to make your life’s blueprint into a masterpiece, even when things happen way differently than you’d ever pictured.
If you’ve slipped REAL hard, remember: Where sin abounded, grace did much more abound. I’ve needed it. You’ll need it. All God’s chilluns need it.
Cheers for Jesus!